Agape is the highest of all love. It is an unconditional love. It is a sacrificial love. And it is a selfless love. It goes far beyond friendship, family, or erotic love. It’s a kind of love that marriages are to emulate. It’s not a glamorous love. In fact, it’s inconvenient, difficult, not very pretty, and often painful.
Our Valentine’s Day was one of Agape Love. It was not celebrated with roses, heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, diamonds, fancy clothes, or dinner at a restaurant. Instead, Keith dressed this morning in his Carhartt’s. He did all the morning chores, cut-up half a hog, worked a twelve-hour shift, did all the evening chores, and paid bills. It was my day off. So, I dressed in a stained t-shirt and worn-out jeans. My hair was in a disarray and I wore no makeup. I did laundry, dishes, delivered tax information to the accountant, worked on a family party for Saturday, cooked 1/4 of a hog (for another celebration), and made dinner.
Our evening meal was dished at 7:00 pm. However, there was no room available at the kitchen table. It is full of party preparations. We had to eat in the living room, but first a load of clean laundry needed to be moved out of one chair. It was relocated to the bed in our bedroom. After dinner, the laundry was returned the chair, so Keith could go to bed. Dinner dishes and the laundry will wait until morning. Why? I’ll be pulling the cooked pork. It won’t wait.
Now, I understand that most folks don’t fantasize about such things. In fact, I know many women that would threaten their spouses with divorce, if they spent Valentine’s Day this way; much less, everyday. Instead, their food is grown by others. Their dishes are done by machine. Their laundry is done at the dry-cleaners. Their hair and nails are done at the salon. And any parties are catered. I also know men that won’t work 8 hours, much less 16. They drink or play video games; all day. The bills don’t get paid. Their wives have to do all the work, or it goes undone. And let’s not forget the folks that demand or begrudgingly give Valentine’s Day gifts. Where’s the romance in any of that?
Our evening was hectic, but peaceful. It was tiring, but gratifying. When Keith kissed me goodnight, our Valentine’s Day ended, the same way it had begun. Yes, it was just another day on our homestead… another day of Agape Love.